There is a very basic rule for being successful in life. Sometimes we forget the importance of this rule. Your success for everything in life depends on ‘people’. People are our greatest asset in business. We need our clients, our employees, and even friends to support us. Life is about connecting and networking and making friends.
Here are a few basic rules to help you win friends and get their support.
1. Practice ‘liking’ people. People ‘pick-up’ on the friendly or unfriendly vibes you send out. If you act with sincerity toward them, they will reciprocate. (Please, if you don’t like them, try to find some good quality in their personalities that can help you like them and think and act around that quality).
2. Learn to remember people’s names. Make sure that you pronounce their names right. Write down the person’s name (make sure that you spell it correctly). You can even get his address and telephone number, also. Make sure that you pronounce the other person’s name correctly.
3. Make a point of introducing yourself to others at every possible opportunity – wherever you are – at meetings, parties, on airplanes, at work. (HINT: Taking the lead in getting to know people is seen as a mark of true leadership) Say to yourself: “I may not be very important to him, but he surely is important to me, and I need to get to know him.” Make sure that the other person gets your name right.
4. Cultivate the quality of being an easy-going and relaxed person to be around. Be comfortable around people and make sure that you do not emanate strain through your body language –treat the other person like you would treat a guest in your home.
5. Act in a down-to-earth and humble way. People don’t like being around a Mr Know-it-all.
6. Work on any ‘sharp’ edges in your personality. Think about drawing up a self-growth plan?
7. Make a point of sorting out any misunderstanding between you and another person. Have a forgiving and generous attitude toward people. Don’t be judgmental! We all make mistakes!
8. Be an encourager. Never leave out an opportunity to compliment or praise anyone where it is due.
9. Make a point of being friendly to everybody. Look people in the eyes, smile and say pleasant things to strangers. You might be surprised at the friendliness you receive back.
10. Broaden your cultural perspective! Try greeting any person from another culture and see how they respond. Become a bridge-builder – you will make lots of new friends.
Just look at this:
The Zulu greeting, “Sawubona” means “I see you” and the response “Ngikhona” means “I am here”. Inherent in the Zulu greeting and in the grateful response, is the sense that until you saw me, I didn’t exist. By recognizing me, you brought me into existence. A Zulu folk saying clarifies this, “Umuntu ngumuntu nagabantu“, meaning “A person is a person because of other people”
There is a very basic rule for being successful in life. Sometimes we forget the importance of this rule. The rule is: Your success for everything in life depends on ‘people’. People are our greatest asset in business.
We need our clients, our employees, and even friends to support us. Life is about connecting and networking and making friends.